A "no" because I love.

Went out with lil sister last night. She put up cute, pity look and whisper to me;

"Kakak, beli la henfon kat adik satu.. naih kak?"

The only lil sister I had, the most beautiful, cute, smart, adorable (can as well be a little bit annoying at times.but then that's what little sister do), sweet and lovable lil sister ever, to me of course. I love her so much almost as much as I love my mom (sorry sis, mom's place is the highest after Allah & Rasullullah).

I smiled, and said to her;

"Nak ambik duit mana, kakak mana ada duit"

Not because I'm currently unemployed or non-self-employed that money is an issue. That's a whole other topic. Money isn't really an issue, it can be worked out. 

That statement uttered at that time was just a simple escape to a question considered as just-saying question. But really, after we got back home I really seriously thought of buying one for her. Because she's my very much loved lil sister, I want to give her everything she want, I want to make her happy. 

But then if I gave her everything she want, that wont be love anymore. The 11-years-old girl would be immersed in gaming if she got her own tablet/handphone. It already is quite not an easy task (if I have to range, I'll say mild) to not let her playing with mom's and dad's phablets. Surely it'll be tougher if she had her own tablet/phone/phablet.

So what's the big deal if a kid is attached to gadget? So far the lil sis isn't very much attached to gadget, but surely if she is, over time it'll affect her vision, might lead to vision impairment maybe? I don't want to rant about other side effects of gadgets on kids, we can all think or read about it everywhere. Kids should be exposed to their real life environmental surrounding a lot more than digital world. Of course since it is the age of digital, they shouldn't be allowed to not use/learn about it. But it should be under control.

As for my dear lil sis, I'm proud that her exposure to such worlds are well balanced. Unlike me, she's socially good with people as well as well acquainted with the digital world of technologies, TV's, internet etc. She make well use of them. She's good the way she is now.

-Loving someone does not mean you should give them everything they want. Loving someone is caring for what they need, even though you have to say no sometimes, because your rational-older-mind-with-little-bit-more-matured-way-of-thinking should be able to foresee pieces of what's good and what's not-


Assalamualaikum.